You are not broken if you grieve. Often the reality is that we will carry our losses to our graves.
There is a reason to hope; if the one lost is in Christ, and if you yourself are in Christ. There’s hope of restoring the relationship, and having back again in the one we love & lost. At the rapture, Christ will bring all those who have fallen asleep in Him.(Conley 2022)
A missionary standing over the Muslim graves of Kosovo, wrote, ‘I felt the sting of death there’. The unspeakable sadness of knowing and knowing full well they perished eternally.(Keesee 2010)
There is a temptation to channel the sadness of loss without hope into a despair driven pursuit of self-soothing, with whatever the heart desires, not always mirth, but also melancholy and bitterness.